There are endless questions that can
spin around your head before, during
and after a date, which is why we’ve
compiled a list of some top dating tips
for men, to help make sure your date is
an ultimate success.
Dating can be a tricky business. What
should you wear? Where should you
meet? How much should you say? Who
should pay? How soon after your date
should you call? There are endless
questions that can spin around your
head before, during and after a date,
which is why we’ve compiled a list of
some top dating tips for men, to help
make sure your date is a success.
1. First impressions are always
important
Your ripped jeans may be lucky, but
remember, this will be the first
impression your date gets of you. Yes,
you should never pretend to be someone
that you’re not, but a girl might like to
see that you take pride in your
appearance. Don’t worry, this doesn’t
mean you need to wear a full tuxedo,
but having a shower, shave, using
aftershave and putting on something
suitable will help you impress your date
and get you off to a good start. Now all
you have to worry about is turning up
on time.
2. Make date plans for somewhere you’ll
feel comfortable
You might think that you’re being a
gentleman by letting your date decide
where you go on your date, but women
often like to see that you can take
control. Plus, as dating can be a
daunting experience, help cut through
those nerves by arranging to meet up in
familiar territory. This will help make
you feel more comfortable. Although,
maybe avoid your normal Saturday
night pub, as bumping into your mates
could be a little distracting on your
date.
3. Be confident
Women value confidence highly when it
comes to choosing a guy. If you’re a
little shy, practice beforehand by talking
to people you don’t know. Or, whilst on
the date, pick a subject that you’re
enthusiastic about, such as a hobby. She
will sense your confidence as you talk
passionately about it. Many people may
also be shy about their appearance. You
may not be 6ft tall with a 6-pack, but
it’s more attractive to a woman to show
that you’re comfortable in your own
skin and happy being you.
4. Don’t do all the talking
On your date, make sure you don’t do all
the talking. Try to keep what you have
to say short and concise. You don’t want
to start boring your date. If this date
goes well, there will be lots more
opportunities to share your stories in
the future. Don’t be scared of pauses
and help mix up the conversation by
asking your date questions. Listening is
important, as it shows that you are
interested in what she has to say.
5. Keep the conversation fun
Try to keep your conversation light-
hearted. On your first date, you don’t
want to get into an in-depth
conversation about why you don’t enjoy
your job, or other issues you’ve been
having. Women want a guy who can
make them laugh and ask questionsYes you do have to be serious
sometimes, but in the early stages of
dating, have some fun.
6. Avoid the ‘ex’ conversation
Talking about your ex is dangerous
territory. It’s best to stay away from the
conversation altogether. Your date will
not be interested and it can make things
feel awkward between you. If your date
does bring up the subject, try to keep
answers short (without appearing
suspicious). Reassure her that your past
is history and that you want to spend
your time getting to know her instead.
7. Turn off your phone
There’s nothing more annoying than
phones ringing whilst trying to spend
quality time out with friends, and it’s
just as irritating on a date. Don’t just
put it on silent or vibrate, as you can
still become distracted. Turn your phone
off completely. If she knows that you’ve
turned your phone off to focus entirely
on the date, she’ll appreciate you’re
taking the time to engage with her fully.
8. Offer to pay
Things have shifted and most women
will assume that they are paying for
their share of the bill. On your first
date, insist on treating her (although
don’t be forceful). This will make you
look like a gentleman. But, if she still
wants to pay, suggest she gets the bill on
your next date, if she wishes.
9. Follow up correctly
If you don’t want a second date, don’t
say you’ll call her. You’ll end up feeling
bad and she might feel hurt. Just say, “I
had a great time tonight”. If you do
want to see her again, don’t play games.
Yes, in films they always leave it a
couple of days to contact each other, but
this is 2016. If you don’t contact her
within a couple of days, you’ll seem like
you couldn’t be bothered, or didn’t
enjoy the date. The sooner you tell her
what a great time you had, the better.
10. Get feedback from a female friend
Dating is not something we learn at
school, we simply have to jump in the
deep end and see how it goes. But, if
you’re looking to improve your dating
skills, why not talk to a female friend.
Discuss your last date, where you went,
what you did and what you talked
about. Everyone has different opinions,
but it can help to give you some useful
feedback on how to be better on your
next date.
So, you have a date lined up and you’ve
seen our top tips for dating. All that is
left is to take a deep breath, relax and
try to enjoy being yourself.
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